Yes, it has been a while since I’ve shared any thoughts, but I heard something the other day that got my wheels spinning. Watching a talk show, I heard a woman explain how she “understood” why her 21 year old daughter would be involved with a gang. She justified that thought by explaining that where she came from people weren’t expected to succeed and the gang made them feel like they were part of something.
I think of the money that is poured into the education system, the after-school programs designed to keep kids off the street, and the social support system that feeds these low expectations.
Will there ever come a day when we as individuals are responsible for our own expectations? Sure, we have some disadvantaged people who need a hand up, but it seems that we’re reached a point where too many people feel entitled to a hand out.
There are people who come from horrid backgrounds that work hard and become extremely successful. There are also those born with a silver spoon in their mouths that are complete failures. Go figure!
I’ve tried hard to teach my children to have high expectations. Success is relative as it relates to happiness, but success is also reliant on dedication, hard work, and an expectation that you will achieve your objectives.
Every child should be encouraged to dream big, and nobody should be expected to fail. We are truly the land of opportunity, but opportunities are not (nor should they be) handed to you. Take responsibility for your actions; instead of waiting to be carried up, climb the ladder on your own, and you’ll increase those expectations and appreciate your success.